What should a psychologist be like? What is mental health? When does a person need a psychologist? Which branch of psychology is better to choose?
For me, these seemingly topical issues lose their significance over time.
I understand each person, their goals, and the journey that connects them. As a psychologist, I see myself as a guide on this journey. If you find it challenging to navigate the path alone, you have the right to bring along a skilled traveler. Together, we'll ensure the journey is both enriching and efficient, taking the safest and most direct route to your goals.
My name is Nikolay, and I am a psychologist and coach, ready to guide you toward your aspirations.
Psychology is not just my profession—it’s my passion. I have a formal education, extensive training, and hands-on experience, all of which equip me with the skills needed to help you succeed.
In my personal life, I’m a simple person. I live quiet, modest life, enjoying sports, cinema, animals, and nature. I’m straightforward, sometimes a bit of a perfectionist, and I firmly believe in the power of goodness while acknowledging the existence of evil. My mission is to contribute positively to the world, to diminish negativity, and to spread kindness wherever I go.
To get to know each other better, I would like to briefly record my opinion on several topics.
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Academic environment and paper collection
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medicines
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warmth, care and infantile state
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price
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esotericism and inexplicable forces
Academic environment and paper collection
Once, academia was a sanctuary for those driven by a genuine thirst for knowledge, a place where minds met to share discoveries and push the boundaries of understanding. It was a time when the pursuit of new ideas was the highest priority. But today, the landscape has shifted. In the shadow of bureaucracy and capitalism, academia has transformed into a space where the outcomes of “research” are often predetermined. The process has become more about gathering dry statistics than true exploration.
We’ve become adept at collecting papers, acquiring certifications, and refining our resumes—all within an endless loop. Yet, despite the impressive credentials, real-world problems seem to multiply. Self-confidence is high, but the sense of responsibility for meaningful research is waning. Those familiar with the business world will recognize this pattern.
The modern academic environment has lost much of its practical relevance, with the original purpose becoming increasingly obscure. New disciplines are constantly being “created” by anyone with the means, leading to a proliferation of fields so vast that soon, we’ll need a new lexicon just to navigate them. In this confusion, the core reason for these endeavors is often forgotten.
I can’t help but feel there’s more at play here. It seems that some have a vested interest in steering science off course, complicating the process to the point where those truly passionate about discovery become disheartened. Even if they don’t completely give up, their energy is often misdirected due to unnecessary complexities. This is a sensitive topic, and many will disagree, but I understand how difficult it can be to challenge something you’ve been devoted to for so long.
Medicines
Unfortunately, psychology has not remained untouched by the forces of greed and ill intentions. There are those who profit from the existence of widespread problems, creating unnecessary medications and promoting their supposed miraculous effects while concealing the downsides. Sure, these drugs may have an impact, but is it truly necessary?
The most common question I hear from new clients is: “Can you prescribe something for me?”
Psychological medications primarily influence the hormonal system and biochemical processes in the brain. Some even affect blood flow, slowing the breakdown of neurotransmitters, increasing certain concentrations, or blocking receptors. We face a choice: rely on external substances that might dull our natural biochemical abilities, or develop our own resilience and skills. (Of course, I’m not referring to severe psychiatric cases where such treatments are essential for health and survival.)
To put it simply, I believe that any medication with psychological effects is ultimately a tool for avoidance, fostering dependency and preventing personal growth.
Warmth, care and infantile state
Early in my career, I encountered psychotherapists who advised me on how to retain clients—how to ensure they kept coming back. I soon discovered an array of teachings and courses designed to teach psychologists how to “sell” themselves, maximizing personal gain while making the actual results a secondary concern. And the strategies they use…
Every living being, from bacteria to humans, instinctively seeks safety when faced with danger. The goal is to minimize harm, conserve energy, and secure a reward. This is the essence of the economy of instincts. What does modern psychology offer? Warmth, comfort, support—a safe space. But for what purpose? To keep a person in psychological comfort, to make them crave this state, and to keep them coming back for more (especially if medication is involved).
This deep, instinctive comfort, however, can be a barrier to personal growth. I propose a different path: stepping out of helplessness, balancing aggression with love, accepting past pain, and preparing for what lies ahead. For me, the result remains the highest priority.
Price
They say, “When it’s free, even vinegar tastes sweet,” but free vinegar isn’t necessarily beneficial—it’s neither real information nor genuine help. Every incentive comes with an unconscious price, and it’s not always about money. The question, “What must I do to get this?” highlights a fundamental truth: the harder something is to obtain, the more valuable it becomes. The body releases more energy to achieve what it desires, increasing interest and focus.
In today’s internet era, where information and resources are at our fingertips, their value diminishes due to sheer accessibility. For instance, I can easily find out how to achieve something simple, like X, but when it comes to more profound and fundamental topics, like Y, it’s a different story. It sounds counterintuitive, but the more complex and meaningful the information, the harder it is to make progress. Easy access to a topic creates the illusion of understanding, but when it comes to applying that knowledge in practice, it becomes increasingly difficult.
Without investing resources, there’s no motivation to act. That’s why offering discounts or giving services for free can be more harmful than beneficial—it undermines the value and, ultimately, the effectiveness of the help provided.
Esotericism and unexplained forces
This topic is both one of the easiest to explain and yet one of the most absurd, but it’s crucial to address. Astrology, numerology, tarot, physiognomy, and countless other “logies” prey on vulnerable minds, manipulating them into believing that if they follow certain rules, everything will be fine. Prediction is a powerful survival mechanism, and we’re naturally drawn to what these practices promise. But it’s a dangerous deception when these predictions are based on emotion rather than logic and facts. My mission is to elevate public intelligence, and in the future, I aim to clarify the mental processes that many people, unfortunately, find themselves entangled in.